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What Happens Next?

August 31, 2010

After the death of our son, many people prayed for our marriage. Specifically, that we wouldn’t end up blaming each other, hurting each other, or growing distant from each other.

This is not the only thing that can cause a marriage to break apart.

After the death of a child, there are many road bumps along the way, nevermind the actual dealing with/processing of the tragedy no parent want’s to face.

As everyone deals with this in their own unique way, the father and mother are left not only with their own grief, but their spouses grief as well. One may not understand the others way of grief, and blame them for not loving the child enough. One may think that the best solution is to get pregnant again, and may not speak of the dead child’s name for years, or even ever again.  So many ways this could come out.

Then, if there is money involved, this has a strong possibility of breaking up a relationship as well.  Any relationship is vulnerable to this.  Unfortunately, there is never an easy solution, as what is easy for one, is not for the other.  When a situation arises, that causes tension, and angst in the couple, they are faced with questions that they didn’t think they’d have to face.   The outcome depends on the bonds of the commitment, the ability for both to see reason, and both to communicate fully what they feel/want.

Things are said, which cannot be taken back. The intent is negligible, once the words are said.  The ability to think before speaking, seems to be lost on certain people.

A child death is never easy, but when it is added with money problems, you have a volatile situation, in which no one knows the outcome, and all are like scared deer in the headlights.

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One Comment leave one →
  1. carolyn permalink
    September 1, 2010 11:55 am

    that is true peggy. I still pray for you guys. Hope your doing ok. These kind of problems is the last thing you needed. I am here if you need anything.

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